Introduction
Since we are at the end of 2025, let’s cherish
and celebrate what we have achieved in this
beautiful year. Time travels so fast, so does our
life. Everyone sets targets at the beginning of
the year, but by the year’s end, we achieve a lot
and miss some. Let me guide you to start the
new year fresh and help you to become “that
girl” of your life in 2026. I am writing this blog to
motivate myself. I am currently juggling getting
back in the routine to be “that girl.” This is my
attempt to be disciplined to be “that girl” again.
Let’s first understand the meaning of “That Girl.”
“That girl” isn’t just a trend, it’s a lifestyle and a
mindset. It is the best version of ourselves we
have dreamed of. It is the version we all
secretly admire – confident, balanced,
organised, mentally strong, and in control of her
life. Consider it the most beautiful part of the
journey to become the best, healthiest,
happiest, proudest version of herself.
“That girl” is someone who starts her day
peacefully and mindfully with the intention of
waking up early, journaling a little, or reading a
book, practising gratitude, manifesting the life
she wants for herself, and clearly setting her
goals towards a successful and meaningful life.
This lifestyle prioritises balance over hustle.
She takes care of her body with healthy meals,
exercise, hydration… but also pays attention to
her mental health. The core of this mindset is
“self-discipline + self-love.” She does not try to
be perfect; she just tries to be consistent.
Most importantly, “That girl” isn’t a specific look
or routine. It is a feeling – a desire to live your
life in an intentional, mindful, and meaningful
way.
Curate a mindset of growth.
A growth mindset means training your brain,
training yourself to see challenges as
opportunities, not problems. This is a
mindset that doesn’t let you get stuck – but
rather gives you the positive approach, a
chance to learn, improve, and grow from
every situation that is coming in your way. –
The first step is affirmations.
When you tell yourself positive things, do
positive self-talk every day, your mind
gradually starts believing it. Affirmations
push you to break out of negative patterns. –
The second important step is gratitude.
When you feel thankful for small things
every day – a peaceful morning, good
health, supportive family – negativity
automatically diminishes.
As mentioned, positive self-talk is
equally important. We talk to ourselves
the most, so make sure those
conversations are pure, gentle, and
kind. Nothing seems impossible when
you trust yourself, when you become
your own biggest supporter.
When there is an intention to shape your
thoughts, emotions, and beliefs, you
create a powerful growth mindset – one
that makes you strong, flexible, and
unstoppable at every stage.
Embrace Soft, Balanced Living
Soft, balanced living means not letting your
life become so rushed or chaotic that you
lose yourself. At times, when I have a
chaotic week, I lose myself by not
prioritising myself in the process. Eventually,
it leads to frustration and overthinking. But
going with the flow should never be an
option. Reset your life, reset your routine,
take time, because every day is not the
same. In today’s fast-paced world, slow
living isn’t a luxury; it’s a necessity. When
you consciously slow down, you learn to
feel, appreciate, and enjoy small moments.
Slowing down says a lot in itself. It means
not doing everything with speed or
pressure. Enjoying morning tea without
scrolling through your phone, taking an
evening walk, noticing small things,
spending time in nature – these small
pauses make life softer and peaceful.
These softer and peaceful moments then
lead to romanticising life. When you make
everyday things feel special – like clean
bedsheets, sunlight through the window,
journaling with soft music, even the routine
begins to feel aesthetic. But here is a catch:
not every day is perfect; there can be bad
days, stressful days, when we feel like not
doing anything. That’s also okay. Try to
romanticise life, such as making a cup of
coffee or lighting a candle. Such small
moments help you to uplift your mental state
and make life a little dreamy, a little
beautiful. And most importantly, living
peacefully. Soft living is about choosing
peace over drama, clarity over confusion,
boundaries over burnout. You decide which
relationships bring you growth, which habits
make you feel calm, and which routine suits
your energy.
Consistency over perfection
This is one of the most important things where I
myself lack. Creating a consistent routine is like
creating a master piece. The true secret of
self-growth isn’t perfection, it’s consistency. We
often think that to be the best, everything needs
to be perfect – a perfect routine, perfect mood,
perfect timing. But the reality is that perfection
only creates pressure, and pressure exhausts
you before you even begin.
Consistency means “doing a little bit every day”,
without expecting every day to be top-notch.
Some days you’re highly productive, other days
you can only complete the basics, and that’s
okay. What really matters is that you don’t
abandon your habits completely. When you
don’t put unnecessary pressure on yourself,
habits become sustainable. As mentioned by
James Clear in Atomic Habits, improve by 1%
every day. He said that habits are compound
interest of self-improvement. Improving 1%
every day may not be noticeable in the short
term, but it is more important for the long term.
And the truth is that long-term transformation
always comes from consistency – small efforts,
repeated regularly.
So give yourself this freedom: to be imperfectly
consistent. Because when you remove the
pressure, growth flows naturally.
Conclusion
In the end, “Becoming That Girl” isn’t some
aesthetic filter or trend-filled version of social
media – it is a personal journey where you
nurture your best, healthiest, joyful self. The
goal of this guide isn’t to make you perfect, but
to give you and me a direction to live our lives
in a more intentional, mindful, and balanced
way.
Remember, becoming “That Girl” doesn’t start
with comparison, but with a connection with
yourself. You can grow at your own pace,
decide your own style, and create your own
version. So be gentle with yourself, stay
consistent, and keep choosing habits that align
with your goals and purpose.
See you in my next blog. Till then, take care
and be happy!
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